Life Update: Becoming a Godmother

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I’ve talked before about my infertility journey. I suffered multiple miscarriages, failed IVF treatment and nearly died from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. We now have a <5% chance of a natural, successful pregnancy per my very cheery doctors. It still hurts of course but life is life and things happen that are beyond our control.

I made a conscious choice and effort to make it clear to people that I still really want children in my life. Over the years I’ve found it really hard when my friends are meeting up and I miss out, like having children’s birthday parties and I’m the only one not invited because I don’t have a child to bring. Even though I don’t have my own children, I do love children and a completely childless life isn’t something I want to be pigeon holed in to by my circumstance.

It was therefore with true joy I gave my commitment to be a Godmother to my cousin and his wife’s daughter earlier this year.

And a bit more recently 🙂

I must confess that I had secretly been hoping I might be asked – my cousin and I have always been close, bizarrely he now works with my husband, we live fairly close, I can drop and run if I’m needed for anything at all, I go crazy in a baby clothes aisle, and most importantly I have a lot of love to give.

And love this little girl I do. She is the most wonderful of little people, and I am so honoured to be able to be a permanent part of her life.

With my other cousins celebrating at her Christening

I hope that over the years I’m able to play with her, learn about what she’s interested in, support her dreams, take her on adventures small and big, perhaps if she’s interested teach her another language, show her that she can be whatever she wants to be, and play a small part in helping her feel strong and confident, whatever path she chooses. And most importantly, whatever she needs, whenever she needs it, I’ll be there.

The best ❤

So life might have given me a few rotten lemons, but its also given me an awful lot of lemonade too. And my little goddaughter, you are a blessing for which I’m incredibly grateful. I look forward to years of adventure with you.

46 responses to “Life Update: Becoming a Godmother”

  1. I hope you both have many adventures together! You sound like you are an awesome Godmother with all your love to give! It It sucks that you don’t get invited to your friend’s children’s birthday parties- excluding you just because you don’t have a child seems unfair.

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    1. Aw thank you 🥰 Ahh I don’t think they deliberately exclude me, just don’t think to invite me as I don’t have a child the same age and would be the only non-parent there. I do my best to just be the mad ‘aunty’ that invites myself along anyway 😊

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  2. Congratulations! You’ll be a great godmother. I think that little girl is going to be spoiled, spoiled, spoiled.😄

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    1. Thanks John – and yes she definitely will 🙂

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  3. This was a very moving post. I’m happy for you, and she is such a lucky child to have you! Enjoy your times together through the years. ❤

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    1. Aw thank you so much for your lovely words Ruth 🙂

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      1. You are so welcome.

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  4. I have been through the same struggle with infertility, and it’s been a tough road towards acceptance that things don’t always work out the way you planned them… But I’ve been blessed with amazing nephews and nieces, and becoming a Godmother has had a huge impact in my life. And in the end, I like being the cool aunt who brings her godson on trips to museum and hikes in the forest. I’m sure you’ll be an amazing Godmother! ❤ 🙂

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    1. Thank you for sharing your own experience Vanessa, it is truly awful how many people are affected and the cruelty of infertility and that it’s so often not talked about. I love that you are able to build those meaningful relationships with your nieces, nephews and godchildren. I am going to enjoy being the cool aunt too, lots of adventures to be had 🙂

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  5. What a joyful post Hannah, I’m so excited for you and the special relationship you and her will have and the many adventures you will share together. What a lucky little girl to have you as a godmother 🙂

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    1. Aw thank you so much Meg, that’s lovely of you to say 🙂

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  6. Beautiful post Hannah; it brought a few tears. It’s obvious that you have much love, wisdom and compassion to share with your sweet goddaughter. It seems like you are already an influence in her life. I hope you have a lovely weekend.

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    1. Thank you – I will do my best to be a positive and loving influence in her life always 🙂

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  7. This post is so beautiful and heart-warming, it brought tears to my eyes, Hannah! The title of being a godmother is so special and meaningful. What an honour it is that the parents want you to play a major role in their child’s life. And I have a feeling that you going to excel at being a great godparent and be in a role that can create a lasting and special bond. Thanks for sharing and have a good day 🙂 Aiva xx

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    1. Thanks so much Aiva, that’s so kind of you to say. I definitely feel very honoured and will do my best to be there for her whatever she needs. Hope you’ve had a lovely weekend 🙂 xx

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  8. Congratulations and good for you for being clear about your wishes. Think of all the travel you’ll be able to introduce her to one day!!

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    1. Aw thank you, and I know – I can’t wait! 🙂

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  9. Congratulations! I wish you both a lifetime of fond memories and wonderful adventures!

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  10. I’m so excited for you, Hannah! All children need adults other than their parents to look up to. I can just imagine the adventures you two will have together. Congratulations.

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    1. Aw thank you Kellye; I fully intend to make the most of it and definitely have lots of adventures 🙂

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  11. Being a godmother is a responsibility, like a surrogate parent! Even though life has been difficult with the miscarriages and ruptured ectopic pregnancy, there’s also joy to be had in this world. Sounds like your goddaughter is doing all of that!

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    1. Thank you so much Rebecca, she’s definitely a total joy. All of us have setbacks and tough times, but there’s still lots to enjoy about life – I’m so glad to have got through the rough patch 🙂

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  12. How wonderful Hannah, I’m certain you will make the perfect godmother to this lovely little girl and the relationship will bring you both long lasting love and happiness.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words Marion, so lovely of you 🙂

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  13. Congrats on being asked to be a godmother to your cousin’s daughter!! We can clearly see how happy you are in all these pictures when you’re with her. She’s lucky to have you in her life!

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    1. Aw thank you so much for your lovely words – I am excited for all the years and adventures ahead.

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  14. A very lovely post. And congratulations on becoming a godmother! What an honor!
    I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I commiserate – I’ve had 4 in my long life, and have a son now – my late life gift (I was 42 when he was born). But before he was born, I spent a lot of time with my nieces when they were very young and that was absolutely wonderful! Your relationship with this young girl will enhance her life immensely as you will have much to teach and share with her. And the relationship will enhance your life, as well.
    Thanks for your very beautiful, and beautifully written, post.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your story and I’m so happy for you that you had your slightly later in life gift 🙂 I hope for a miracle one day myself, but time is running out for me. I’m very excited for all the adventures to be had with my goddaughter, I love her dearly and it’s definitely an honour 🙂

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  15. Congratulations Hannah, on becoming a godmother to this lovely girl! You look so happy in the photos. I hope you have lots of adventures together, I’m sure you’ll be a fine role model for her.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words Leighton 🙂

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  16. Warmest congratulations on becoming a godmother, Hannah!! What an honor! Have a wonderful time!!

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  17. This is a lovely post Hannah – as I mentioned in another post of yours, my struggles have been similar to your own …. She’s a lucky little girl to have you as a godmother – you will enjoy watching her grow. XXXMarie

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    1. I’m so sorry we have both had to experience the pain of infertility, it is truly so wide spread and untalked about it’s shocking! Aw I will, it’s so lovely to be able to spend time with her 🙂 xx

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  18. Congratulations!! What a special honor, she is a lucky little girl 🙂

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  19. Such a blessing Congratulations💕

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  20. Congrats on being a godmother, it is such a special bond that you will have! This post was really beautiful and heart-warming, and this little girl is really lucy to have you in her life!

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    1. Thank you so much ❤

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  21. Oh Hannah, how exciting is this! I think it’s quite a responsibility to be a godmother, but also a big privilege. And this little girl can count herself very lucky to have you in her life. Enjoy spoiling her (that’s the right of a godmother 😉).

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    1. I’m soooo excited and loving every second ❤

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  22. […] returning from HK, the highlight was my goddaughter’s Christening. I have spent a lot of time with her this year, seeing her at least every month. I get […]

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